Commentators who yell "hypocrisy!" at the feminist silence
over Gary Condit's adultery with Chandra Levy are missing the
point. Politically correct feminists have always been silent
about adultery...except when it can be used as weapon of
convenience. The real hypocrisy occurs when they condemn
Republican transgressions, not when they ignore Democratic ones.
Adultery may be the only important aspect of marriage that PC
feminists have not subjected to intense ideological analysis.
Divorce, the economics of housework, domestic violence,
stay-at-home moms, deadbeat dads -- the "politics" of marriage
has been dissected under a microscope.
But go to the NOW website and do a search under "adultery":
only four of 3,240 searched documents will contain that word.
All four of the returned documents decry the U.S. military code
against adultery because, they argue, the code embodies gender
bias. Go to the Feminist Majority website and you will fifteen
results, all of which condemn the treatment of adulterous women
in Afghanistan or Egypt. They speak of the double standard in
adultery laws as "gender apartheid."
To those unfamiliar with PC feminist theory -- or to those
who persist in not taking it seriously -- this oversight seems
inexplicable. After all adultery is a large contributing factor
in divorce, which is often cited as a major cause of poverty in
women. Adultery is intimately linked to other prominent feminist
concerns, such as domestic violence, paternity claims, and
deadbeat dads. Why are they silent on this significant aspect of
human sexuality when they are verbose on every other one?
The standard explanation employed by PC feminists who are
backed into a corner on the issue, as they were with Clinton, is
absurd. They claim that adultery is sex between consenting
adults and, so, it is a personal matter. Adultery is either
beneath their political notice or it is in bad taste for them to
comment upon.
By this same logic, they should be silent about a wide range
of issues from heterosexual dating practices to marital
relations, from pornography to prostitution. Yet these issues
are shouted from feminist rooftops. Why? Because the concept of
"the personal is political" underlies all of political
correctness. Only adultery has a veil of privacy drawn across
its face.
NOW's refusal to invade Clinton's "privacy" by commenting on
his adulteries -- some of which may have been sexual assaults --
even puzzled some voices within feminism. Writing of the
Presidential Sex Crisis III (02/02/01), Barbara Ehrenreich
observed, "Patricia Schroeder and Bella Abzug came up with
tortured, self-canceling meditations on sexual harassment vs.
good, wholesome, consensual sexual relationships. The National
Organization for Women issued a touching call for public
officials to pledge they would reject 'the aphrodisiac of power'
and forswear sexual contact with their office help." Ehrenreich
wondered why NOW did not realize that "the very essence of
adultery is the breaking of pledges once made in good faith to
nice, trusting women like themselves."
Ehrenreich is an old-fashioned '60s liberal and, like many in
that school, she does not seem to grasp the ultimate meaning of
gender feminist theory on marriage. Namely, traditional marriage
-- with its heterosexual, monogamous nature -- is, in and of
itself, a violation of "good faith to nice, trusting women."
Traditional marriage is viewed as the very source of women's
oppression and as the wellspring of patriarchy.
Given this hostility toward marriage, it is not surprising
that PC feminists do not condemn adulterous (Democratic) men.
When men cheat, feminists see it as the norm because marriage
itself is a "cheat." When women stray, feminists no more condemn
them than they would blame the unjustly imprisoned for making a
jailbreak.
Consider the April/May 1999 issue of Ms. Magazine that
discussed adultery in four articles.
"Subversive Desire"
by Bell Hooks states, "Adultery is needed and accepted because
today's couples, young and old alike, are cynical about love and
more convinced than ever that relationships are primarily about
passion and power."
In "Outside the Box,"
Blanche McCrary Boyd defines adultery as "a legal concept, not a
moral one" -- a matter of contract. She shrugs off Clinton's
indiscretions with the comment, "I would assume that most people
have done something at least as racy as Bill Clinton's game with
his cigar. If not, get busy."
Jaishri Abichandani describes arranged marriages within Indian culture in
"Sleeping Arrangements."
In a statement that seems to cover both arranged marriages and
freely chosen ones, she concludes, "I don't know if I would
commit adultery, but I'd certainly consider it."
In the fourth article, Jennifer Belle suggests that monogamy
is "sexual
Republicanism." Were she to marry, Belle explains that she
would remain faithful. But, if her husband cheated, she would
either forgive him or "hack off his penis."
Given the unsophisticated level of commentary offered by the
leading feminist periodical is it any wonder that NOW has
nothing useful to say about Condit's conduct? The gamut of the
MS-advice on adultery runs from "accept it" to "get
busy," from "I don't know" to sexual mutilation.
PC feminists view traditional marriage as the enemy. In their
worldview, adultery by men merely reveals that institute as a
sham. Why does anyone expect such feminists to condemn adultery?